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I forgot my pole shorts at home today, so I took a page out of @racheleribera ’s book and leotarded out with some heels. I can’t move in nearly as magical ways as she does, but I did have a few moments where I got really immersed in my freestyle. Here is one of them :) #pole #poledance #poledancer #heels #dirtyheels #poleclassique #sexypole #floorwork #freestyle #fyf #findingyourfreestyle #poleflow
A recent report revealed women in the United States are paid less in all industries, at every level, for the same work as men. Unsurprisingly, dozens of countries have more gender equality than the United States. We didn’t even break the top 25.
Congratulations on being able to support yourself through sugaring! Your newfound source of income leaves you with a ton of extra money. You may want to splurge and spend your entire allowance the second it comes in contact with your perfectly manicured hands, but it is important to budget, save, and conserve. Here are a few of my tips for sugar babies to budget their money. Of course, you will need to tweak these tips to fit your lifestyle and goals.
There are three things you can do with your money: pay your bills, spend, and save.
Right now, let’s work with bills and spending. On a piece of paper, write down every thing you can think of that you will need to pay or spend money on. Here is an example:
Next, let’s work on savings. You can divide your savings category into two additional sub categories: long-term savings (things you want to purchase/invest for your life that cost over a few hundred dollars) and short-term savings (smaller items that cost under a few hundred dollars). On a piece of paper, write down all your short-term and long-term savings goals. Here is an example:
Next, you will want to allot a certain amount of money to each category. There are two ways to do this depending on how you receive your money.
You have a set allowance each month
-You have a sugar daddy who gives you around the same amount every single month
You can distribute exact numerical amounts of money for each category. Each amount that you allot will depend on how much you make and the importance each category has for you. For example, if you don’t have any long terms saving goals but are sugaring to spoil yourself with nice items, you would put more money into the spending category. Distribute a certain amount of money for each main category (pay, spend, and save) and within those categories, distribute a certain amount of money for each sub-category within the main three.
Heres an example: Let’s say Sally has a set allowance of $2000 that she receives on the first of every month. This is how she budgets her monthly allowance.
You make a different amount of money each month
-You either have multiple sugar daddies or receive money from WYP and POT dates which cause your monthly allowance to be sporadic and different from month to month.
If your sugaring income is erratic, it’s best to assign percentage values to each category instead of numerical values. Each time you get money from sugaring, you use the percentages you created to get a numerical value.
Here’s an example: Sally’s SD gives her money each time they meet. She also uses WYP and goes on a few POT dates every week. This is her budget.
In one week, she received $1000 from her SD and POT dates. She uses her assigned percentages to calculate what she should do with her money each time she receives money. Her budget will change depending on how much she receives. This is her budget for the week.
Tweak and shape your budget so that it accurately and realistically meets your spending and saving needs. You can be as specific and strict about your budget as you’d like.
Now that you have a budget written out, the next step is to keep track of your spending and make sure you adhere to your budget. There are two ways of doing this.
If your SD wires money directly into your account or you are able to safely deposit your money into your bank account without raising suspicion (read about banking laws here), you can easily track your finances virtually through an app of your choice. I personally love Mint.com because you can manage your bills and spending all in one place. You can also input your budget and Mint will track your spending, even alerting you if you go over your budget for any given category.
If you operate mostly in cash, I would highly recommend the envelope system (and a good safe). Buy some pretty envelopes, label those bad boys with your different categories, and stick your money in them. Then, whenever you need to spend your money or pay your bills, take out the amount you need from the corresponding envelope.
This is what my envelope system looks like.
I have an four envelopes labeled Rent, Spend, Short-term Savings, and Long-term Savings. When it comes time to pay my rent, I will purchase a money order (read more about using them safely here). On my two “savings” envelopes, I attached a small memo sheet where I wrote down my savings goals which I can cross off once I achieve/purchase them. Also, once I accumulate enough in my long-term saving envelope, I will deposit the money into my bank account. I also bought a cute notebook in which log each “transaction” I make concerning the money in my envelopes. Tweak the amount of envelopes you have and their labels to fit your budget.
Be strict with your envelopes and don’t be tempted to “borrow” money from a different envelope if you run out.
This guide is a conglomeration of posts that other babies have written about budgeting along with my own personal experience. Thanks for reading. I hope this helps. If anyone wants to add their own tips, feel free!
“People almost invariably arrive at their beliefs not on the basis of proof but on the basis of what they find attractive.”
―
Blaise Pascal
Almost 500 years before modern psychologists identified the elements of persuasion, a French physicist, philosopher, inventor, and mathematician, Blaise Pascal wrote a book, De l'Art de Persuader (The Art of Persuasian). He argued that the surest way to persuade someone was not by bombarding them with your opinions but rather slipping through the backdoor of their belief. This couldn’t be anymore true when persuading your rich benefactor to spend on you.
In the beginning, taking the direct route and saying exactly how you feel may seem like a grand idea but it rarely gets you far. Men have their own ideas (ie. she’s a gold-digger) and most will resent you for trying to persuade them to do something they did not reason themselves into.
In the beginning stages its always best to simply suggest what you want. Pascal said it brilliantly, “People are generally better persuaded by the reasons which they have
themselves discovered than by those which have come into the mind of
others.”
Your mission at this point is to make him realize you are a woman with expensive taste; that is without saying you are a woman with expensive taste (wink, wink)
How do we do that?
Non-verbal Insinuation
Men are less susceptible to words. Its more about eye catching, elevating visuals and environments.
Here are a few suggestions:
Dress: Wear something high end yet not tacky nor flashy. I like to wear my diamond earrings or a beautiful gold earring and necklace set my parents gifted me. Men always stare at my jewellery and some even comment. Whichever the case, in all their minds its already being established that I like nice expensive things. I strongly suggest investing in jewellery. Read this article if you’re struggling with your outward appearance.
Make-up: Every man knows Chanel. I love Chanel glossimer’s and I carry one with me in my purse at all times. I will purposefully leave a glossimer in his car. I’ll never ask for it. He will later tell you he found it. Apologize as if it were an honest mistake. Its not some outlandish expensive thing but he will remember Chanel.
Lingerie: When you are comfortable with him being in your home. Leave a La Perla/Agent Provocateur/Insert expensive lingerie brand shopping bag laying around; if you are more daring, a bra on the kitchen counter.meow.
Dates: Suggest places that are luxurious
Everything about you should scream “I like nice things.”
You aren’t an ordinary girl
Most people don’t have the power of persuasion. What they fail to realise is that it’s all about suggestion. It’s about two people, who are probably strangers, reaching through
physical and mental space trying to understand each other.
It’s not about money (at this point). It’s not about yes or no. It’s about making him know what you are about without telling him what you are about $$$$$
Side note: Now if you feel that this benefactor is easily yours and completely infatuated with you at this point, disregard this entire post. Instead be direct. When in doubt I would advise otherwise.
